There was an article in the Evening Standard paper, this evening, which made me very angry. Click on the link below for a version written in 2007:
http://www.thisislondon.co.uk/news/article-23421279-women-get-virginity-fix-nhs-operations-in-muslim-driven-trend.do
Apparently a large number of muslim women were having hymen repair surgery to give the allusion of being virgins for their wedding night. I found it completely abhorrent that such muslims think that by having their hymen repaired and decieving their husband is acceptable.
We need to educate these young women (as well as the muslim community) about the workings of female body. A hymen may tear and cause bleeding by exercising or by overstretching the pelvic muscles. In some cases, theres already no hymen OR that it does not tear during intercourse at all!
And dont get me started on women who fornicate and THEN have surgery to become "virgins".
I also understand that such articles may be biased against muslims (as they normally are) but I know there are some truths to this article.
How do you guys feel about this subject??
Thursday, July 29, 2010
Thursday, July 22, 2010
ARGGHHHHH
^^^^ Thats how I feel.
I had to take my mum to the market to buy her weekly fruit and vegetable. As you are aware, we are not on the most best of terms. So apart from answering any questions she has, I dont say a word. As we are driving to Iceland, she is asking me why I am like this. I said either I keep shtum or we can have an argument because thats what inevitably happens with us.
So, I explain to her how I feel about the behaviour of some of my sisters from before my exam up until these last few days. For each and every point I make, she makes excuses. She starts generalising. So I asked if I had been lacking in my duties at home. She said no. So I asked why lump me in with everyone when she starts yelling? Why bother vocalizing the issue insteas of DOING something about it?
As always, he turns the whole topic around and starts acting like the martyr and also accuses me of overdramatising the issue.
So I shut up at that point.
On a positive note: I am back to full time work on Monday. So I will be working 7 days a week for the next 4 weeks. YESSS!!!!!
I had to take my mum to the market to buy her weekly fruit and vegetable. As you are aware, we are not on the most best of terms. So apart from answering any questions she has, I dont say a word. As we are driving to Iceland, she is asking me why I am like this. I said either I keep shtum or we can have an argument because thats what inevitably happens with us.
So, I explain to her how I feel about the behaviour of some of my sisters from before my exam up until these last few days. For each and every point I make, she makes excuses. She starts generalising. So I asked if I had been lacking in my duties at home. She said no. So I asked why lump me in with everyone when she starts yelling? Why bother vocalizing the issue insteas of DOING something about it?
As always, he turns the whole topic around and starts acting like the martyr and also accuses me of overdramatising the issue.
So I shut up at that point.
On a positive note: I am back to full time work on Monday. So I will be working 7 days a week for the next 4 weeks. YESSS!!!!!
Tuesday, July 20, 2010
The Dark Side!
Mother dear has been on a rampage since Friday.
I have ceased to be drawn into a confrontation with her. I know that no good will come of it IF I were to speak my mind!
Mum once said to me " Koi bandey paani naal bartan thoney, thu the Mamu peshaap naal thoney ho!" ( translated as: Some people was pots with water, you and your Uncle wash them with wee!")
Basically some people beat around the bush and sugar coat things or try and be all "neutral" when theres an argument. Whereas myself and this Uncle are just straight up about everything. No backchatting, no lies, no sugarcoating!
I agree with her on this point, but I also know when to just keep my mouth shut. No matter what I say, her views and ideas would never change. She could never accept that my point of view may be just as valid as hers.
Thus, I have avoided talking to her......bliss!
I have ceased to be drawn into a confrontation with her. I know that no good will come of it IF I were to speak my mind!
Mum once said to me " Koi bandey paani naal bartan thoney, thu the Mamu peshaap naal thoney ho!" ( translated as: Some people was pots with water, you and your Uncle wash them with wee!")
Basically some people beat around the bush and sugar coat things or try and be all "neutral" when theres an argument. Whereas myself and this Uncle are just straight up about everything. No backchatting, no lies, no sugarcoating!
I agree with her on this point, but I also know when to just keep my mouth shut. No matter what I say, her views and ideas would never change. She could never accept that my point of view may be just as valid as hers.
Thus, I have avoided talking to her......bliss!
Monday, July 12, 2010
Ramadhan Prep!
A/S peeps!
I think it is about time that I posted up my plans for this Ramadhan.
Alhumdulillah I keep my fasts, pray my Salah, I rolled the springs and stuffed the samosas, I've cleaned the house, I've cleaned my room! AND I've worked full time too.
But I always feel that little bit empty after fasting finishes. And I KNOW it is because I never made full use of my time. There was always something that prevented me from reading more Qur'an, or prayign extra nafls, or reading more about the Deen. And every year, I promise myself that next time I will try harder.
Inshallah this year I will try ( and report on my efforts). I have already started reading Qur'an and hope to finish it before Ramadhan and trying to read ALL my rakats.
Ok I am going to put my "to do" list here:
1) Read/complete the Qur'an
2) Read all Rakats
3) Get back into reading english translation of Qur'an
4) Finish learning Allahs' names ( I know the first 16 by heart)
5) Learn 1 new Surah.
I THINK that is enough for now. I dont want to overdo it because I might be going back to full time work in August to clear my overdraft (again).
What do you guys think??
I think it is about time that I posted up my plans for this Ramadhan.
Alhumdulillah I keep my fasts, pray my Salah, I rolled the springs and stuffed the samosas, I've cleaned the house, I've cleaned my room! AND I've worked full time too.
But I always feel that little bit empty after fasting finishes. And I KNOW it is because I never made full use of my time. There was always something that prevented me from reading more Qur'an, or prayign extra nafls, or reading more about the Deen. And every year, I promise myself that next time I will try harder.
Inshallah this year I will try ( and report on my efforts). I have already started reading Qur'an and hope to finish it before Ramadhan and trying to read ALL my rakats.
Ok I am going to put my "to do" list here:
1) Read/complete the Qur'an
2) Read all Rakats
3) Get back into reading english translation of Qur'an
4) Finish learning Allahs' names ( I know the first 16 by heart)
5) Learn 1 new Surah.
I THINK that is enough for now. I dont want to overdo it because I might be going back to full time work in August to clear my overdraft (again).
What do you guys think??
z
Monday, July 5, 2010
Sunday, July 4, 2010
Maano my Kitten
There's a saying that you can get on a key ring or fridge magnet and right now it fits my life so well....
" The more people I meet, the more I love my cat!"
(Maano asleep on my bed by the window...sooo shweet!)
Saturday, July 3, 2010
Exam Confusion
So, I recieve my candidate number and exam timetable for my 1st year retake paper on Thursday. All good, just as I expect.
Friday, another similar letter arrives through the post. 2nd year exam timetable. Ok now I am confused. I am pretty sure that the course organiser didnt email me any details of 2nd year exams. So I check my email.... As I thought. No mention of an exam. I ring them up to check. Apparently I failed the 2nd year paper and have to retake. So I said that it was not stated on the word document that was emailed to me back in December stating what I needed to retake. I am still expected to sit the exam.
I call up student welfare and cry down the phone to the most loveliest and kind woman, who listens to my situation and puts me through to someone else who handles this stuff. By this point the course organiser calls back and APOLOGISES for the error and suggests I could still sit the exam as I should already have revised part of the module for the c/w exam I had back in June. I start crying again ( Im sooo embarassed coz I am not normally so emotional!).
I explained that I am crap at exams and theres no way I can revise 9 months worth of material in less than a week AND pass THAT exam. I failed it the first time WITH revision!!!
The course organiser said that she will speak to the exam board and see whether I could sit a different paper at a different time OR wait til next year and retake it.
Everything happens for a reason. And Allah tests his believers. And HE knows I can handle it. But Alhumdulillah he made it easy for me.
Allahu Akbar!
Friday, another similar letter arrives through the post. 2nd year exam timetable. Ok now I am confused. I am pretty sure that the course organiser didnt email me any details of 2nd year exams. So I check my email.... As I thought. No mention of an exam. I ring them up to check. Apparently I failed the 2nd year paper and have to retake. So I said that it was not stated on the word document that was emailed to me back in December stating what I needed to retake. I am still expected to sit the exam.
I call up student welfare and cry down the phone to the most loveliest and kind woman, who listens to my situation and puts me through to someone else who handles this stuff. By this point the course organiser calls back and APOLOGISES for the error and suggests I could still sit the exam as I should already have revised part of the module for the c/w exam I had back in June. I start crying again ( Im sooo embarassed coz I am not normally so emotional!).
I explained that I am crap at exams and theres no way I can revise 9 months worth of material in less than a week AND pass THAT exam. I failed it the first time WITH revision!!!
The course organiser said that she will speak to the exam board and see whether I could sit a different paper at a different time OR wait til next year and retake it.
Everything happens for a reason. And Allah tests his believers. And HE knows I can handle it. But Alhumdulillah he made it easy for me.
Allahu Akbar!
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